Goals, like religion and television, are games for the mind. Which, are fine. But, when people ask me what my goals are, I have a really hard time answering.
I understand aspirations are important, because they show a person in motion. But, I also think goals (or dreams or whatever you want to call them) are for people who need a justification for their every action. As if to say, “I want to do ____________________, so that means I need to do _______________________.” And, usually that thing they want to do, means fucking over a lot of people and thwarting any real, spirit-filled, day-to-day, in-the-moment living.
Goals seem very selfish, but not selfish in a good way. They don’t usually include people, and they don’t usually include helping other people. Vision, however, does.
The saddest thing to me about goals is how much we use them to judge other people. Like, someone with 20 things written out means they’ve got way more shit figured out than the person who would rather make things out of his/her life that doesn’t include verbalizing, or writing, things they would probably do anyway. Goals are all like, “Hey, look at me. I’m doing something important,” but they’re not really that important. The scariest part, though, is how much stupid shit people will do all for the sake of their goals.
For example, a goal would be to find a new job or to lose weight or to get a new car. But, naturally, don’t you think you probably would’ve just done that, anyway? Maybe, but with goals, you can do them and not feel any sort of responsibility that comes along with the process of attaining those things. Writing out or saying your goals, to me, shows me your whole entire life is a wreck and these super easy things (because, let’s be honest, if the goal is to make more money or have nicer things, it’s not that difficult to do) make you feel good about your life. Then, you feel a sense of purpose and contentment, and then use those feelings about yourself to measure against other people. And, when others don’t seem as active (or “stable”), you’ll feel even more pride for yourself. Rinse, repeat.
What’s the solution? Have a vision for your life that is beyond yourself. Your goals will just naturally happen, because you’re not going to aim for anything you can’t land. If you can imagine it, you can do it. Vision, however, sets aside the obvious, and it digs into who you are as a person, and how you’re able to serve the people around you. Achieving things don’t make you a success. The success is in constantly striving to find your place. How are you going to make a lasting change, for the good, in the world around you? I believe everyone really can do that.
Set goals and you will be distracted from what you were destined to do.